My child spending time with his dad is important to me. I stood back and watched God move all the pieces around until an easy visit was peacefully arranged recently, March 26. I took Mateo to Austin Road and after 3 nights there, just as we had discussed, a good man named Charlie brought my child home to me on March 29th.
My child’s father has many options for visiting with his son. I am happy to drive Mateo 70 miles to his dad’s farm and leave him there for a time. All we need is a respectable person to drive the return trip. Or, if I was confident the visit would end gracefully, I would drive down and pick Mateo up. Right now, I do not trust that Miguel will allow me to bring my child home. So miguel needs to find a driver to make the return trip. A driver that Mateo and I are both comfortable with.
He has suggested that his friend Gracie drive Mateo, or Gracie’s partner Tim. I do not trust Gracie because she has been unwilling up to this point, to take responsibility for her actions regarding a threat she extended me some time ago. When papa suggested that Gracie drive Mateo, I wanted to explain why I was not accepting that offer so I told Mateo that papa’s friend Gracie had threatened me and then denied that she had sent that text message. My child is not comfortable riding with Tim because he only knows Tim through Gracie. Papa also suggested that his neighbor K make the return trip with Mateo and this is another person that threatened to use the law against me to force his own idea of reasonable visitation.
There are many people in papa’s neighborhood that regularly drive people for money. Similar to an Uber driver for the Amish. To make the return trip with Mateo, Papa could hire one of these people to drive, none of whom has ever threatened me or has any interest in our visitation schedule. I would feel comfortable that a person like that would just drive the van as arranged and Mateo’s visit with his dad would end gracefully, like it did when Charlie brought him home to me.
miguel suggested that his friend Suzie from Rebel farm do the driving and I agreed to that, as long as Mateo was comfortable with it. We have also agreed that Bob and Linda, or David and Donna could drive. There are many people that attend the church a mile and a half from the farm that know miguel through Mateo’s and my long and consistent attendance there. If miguel had developed relationships with any of these people they could drive to help him enjoy a visit with his son. I have agreed that his daughter Grace could drive. I have tried to develop a relationship with his son Isaiah and have not received reliable communication that builds the trust needed to allow my child to ride with him. I hope to see this change as time goes on. Our friend Janice picked Mateo up and brought him to me at the end of a previous visit. Miguel has not contacted her about helping him see his son.
The purpose of writing this down is as usual, to make myself feel better, and also to have this information public. A few days ago when I spoke to Miguel’s friend Tim, he said that he thought miguel should hire a lawyer and subject Mateo to a DNA test in order to force the issue of what he believes are reasonable custody and visitation rights for miguel. Miguel then called me and said that he was going to get a lawyer and somehow force Mateo to visit with him. So it just feels better to have all this information out in public for anyone to see. Miguel says he doesn’t understand why I won’t agree to G, T, or K driving Mateo. I hope that maybe someone reading this could explain it to miguel. Or someone could encourage him to pursue any of the other options mentioned above for arranging a visit with his son. My child spending time with his dad is important to me.
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How previous visits have not ended gracefully
Last time we visited papa, as Mateo sat in the backseat, miguel punched me in the face as I was reaching down from the passenger seat to the ground to retrieve my bag that papa had pulled out of the car.
This is not a criticism of papa, it's just what happened.
The time before that, at the end of a two week visit with his papa, when it was time for my child to come with me, his mother, there was a note from miguel taped to the door of his empty house, telling me to go on my way without the child.
This is not a criticism, that is just what happened.
https://teetsforpeace.blogspot.com/2024/03/how-can-he-spend-time-with-his-dad.html
https://teetsforpeace.blogspot.com/2023/08/driving-from-bryan-oh-amtrak-station-to.html
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Gracie’s text message
Papa talks about me in such a way that one person he chooses to spend a great deal of time with, sent me a text message, threatening to call the police, accusing me of 6 specific illegal activities. This text message, and papa’s ongoing relationship with this person, demonstrates the way papa feels about me and what he believes should happen to me. He tells people that I have committed illegal activity and I should have the authorities involved to punish me for my behavior. I have asked a few times for papa and this person to clear up the issue so that we can move forward with you visiting papa, free of the idea he raised about me being accused and turned in to the police. Papa and his companion have both refused to acknowledge the text message. I am not going to allow my child to spend time away from me, with a person that creates this situation of threat and accusation, and then refuses to clean it up. It could be cleaned up.
Text message from papa’s companion to me:
"you have abandon a property -- which is illegal.
Take a child away from their father without consent -- illegal.
You have made threats against peoples lives -- illegal.
What you are doing to Miguel is extortion, elderly abuse and straight up theft ... taking all the money from the cows -- from his herd.
You are out of line and I hope you step foot back in hillsdale county.
I pray for Mateo's safety. If he had a SS# I would already called the cops & so would many others. You are not in control here. "
https://teetsforpeace.blogspot.com/2023/03/yes.html
